Transform Your Relationships with the Chrysalis

For almost two decades, I refused to give out instructions for doing the Chrysalis until after people had tried it. Nobody—and that includes you—literally nobody can understand the impact of this method from reading it. So please try it out. You will be pleasantly surprised by how it surpasses any expectations that you have.

The best way I can describe the effects of the Chrysalis is to try to get you to remember the most centered, happy, and wise state of mind you have ever experienced. Now imagine that for a solid hour or two, everything you say comes from that centered, happy, and wise state. Imagine that in addition, everything that that other people say comes directly from that wise part of their minds.

Finally, imagine that for the entire hour, everyone in the room is listening from that amazingly rare state of mind. What comes out of that true meeting of minds is entirely beyond your experience—at least, most of the time.

It’s Easy to Host a Chrysalis

The Chrysalis transforms communication in groups of two to seven people. Use it to find wisdom about a problem, resolve conflicts, create a vision for the future, or clarify relationship issues.

Optional Materials: Obtain a chime that produces a long, clear sound. While any chime will work, Google “meditation bar chime” to find a variety of chimes that run from $10 to $20 in price. This is not necessary, but I always use one because the clean, clear sound seems to help everyone who uses this method.

General Procedures:

  • Each step applies to both of you, not just the speaker.
  • No cross talk!
  • During inner silence, abandon your responses. Simply tune in and let go of anything that comes up.

Preparation: You can lead a guided meditation, visualization, or other process and discuss your experiences as the topic. You can listen to an inspirational video or speaker, and use the Chrysalis to discuss what you learned. Or you can take turns choosing a topic that’s important to you, which could be a problem, a goal, any situation in your life, or your life’s mission.

Select one person to ring the chime or announce the steps. If you’re the host, this would be you.

Process:

Step 1:     Remind people about the topic, lead the guided meditation, or one person shares their issue. This will be the topic. Decide who’s going to speak first. You’ll go around the circle thereafter, everyone speaking in their turn.

Step 2:     Ring the chime and says, “Acknowledge thoughts and feelings.” Silently, everyone in the room notices their automatic reactions. Don’t say what they are. Just notice them.

Step 3:    (Chime) Say, “Inner silence.” Let go of the reactions you noticed in step 2. Empty your mind for four deep breaths. (You’ll need at least thirty seconds of inner silence to quiet the amygdale.) Don’t plan your comments. Don’t try to remember the important points. Just be empty.

Step 4:     (Chime) Say, “Collect thoughts.” Everyone thinks about the topic meditatively for several breaths.

Note: If you were unable to be inwardly silent during step 3, you’ve already collected your thoughts. Use step 4 for inner silence. Don’t skip it, even if you have to do it at an irregular time.

Step 5:     (Chime) Say, “Articulate.” The first person verbalizes his or her thoughts. If you’re listening, you just listen from the empty, meditative place from step 3. Don’t respond. Save comments for later or for the Parking Lot, which is at the end of the meeting.

Step 6:     (Chime) After the first person says they’re finished, say, “Acknowledge thoughts and feelings.” Everyone silently notices their automatic reactions.

Step 7:     (Chime) “Inner silence.” No matter whose turn it is, everyone empties their minds.

Step 8:     (Chime) “Collect thoughts.” Everyone contemplates the topic meditatively.

Step 9:     (Chime) “Articulate.” The second person verbalizes.

Step 10:  Continue with these four steps for each person— until the conversation has gone on for at least ten to twelve “Articulates.”

Step 11:  The Remembrance Round: When you’re finished, set a timer for five minutes. Everyone writes an answer to the question: “What have you gained for yourself from this?” If you like, email your responses to the Joyful Wisdom Community Google Group.

Step 12:  After everyone’s finished writing, chime and say, “Final inner silence.”

Step 13:  (Chime) Say, “Create an intention.” Each person says, “I choose…” in random order. Ring the chime between choices.

Step 14:  When no one has any more choices or intentions, proceed immediately into the Acknowledgment Round.

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On this page, please leave any comments and questions you wish to leave. I’m especially interested in reports about:

  • Your experiences that will help new users understand how to use this method and what its benefits are.
  • Things that you have learned that can help others to make this method work more effectively.

If you’re exploring a specific issue that you’d like to share, please post it to the Joyful Wisdom Community Google Group.  Email me to request an invitation to this Google Group.

Thank you.

2 responses to “Transform Your Relationships with the Chrysalis

  1. I’d just like to say what magical results I’ve found that come from the Chrysalis. As an example, this morning I did one with a friend about a dilemma at work that has been bothering me for months. Due to the restrictive policies in my office, I felt I had no real alternatives around a procedure that I feel is demeaning to employees. After the Chrysalis, I realize that there are endless possibilities on how to handle this procedure in a more caring way that will still stay within the restrictions of policy. I’m now looking forward to doing further work in opening up my heart and creativity to solutions about this procedure and others. Thanks!

  2. Hi Cougar! These instructions are clear. To take them up a notch, I would

    1. Insert “for (20) seconds” after each step in the first round.

    2. Provide a hyperlink to the signup page for the Joyful Wisdom Community Google Group.

    3. Go here
    http://blog.wi.id.au/2006/08/25/free-mp3-meditation-timer/Google Chimes

    Ask this guy to make a custom sequence of online audio chime sounds or even a single sound we can click on our desktop!
    Ask for an Affiliate commission for each sale to your growing following:)

    I appreciate your service and am enjoying our collaboration!! It occurs to me that two audiences that might see the value and become passionate about this work are:
    1. coaches
    2. high functioning Aspergers people.

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